Friday, February 26, 2010

Mommy Questions

There is just something about a new baby. Something that makes people stop and stare when you walk in a room. Something that makes strangers feel the need to talk to you; Something that just seems to make everyone nicer and more pleasant to be around.

Now I love babies just as much as the next person. I also love all of the positive attention. In fact if I ruled the world (we would all be in trouble) I would invoke a rule that you have to perform one random act of kindness every day. I love nice people! Probably because I am the crazy girl that really likes to smile at random people just because. And if you’re not careful I will even talk to you in line at Target or while you pump your gas. (ok completely of subject-sorry)
There is also something about a baby that makes people seem to lose their common sense.
What I mean is, when else would go up to someone in Walmart and start poking your hand in their basket? And the questions. ..Have you ever really thought about what you’re asking? The question really make me laugh.

For example:

#1 Is he a sweet baby?
What do you expect me to say? “Well no he has been arrested twice for drugs; broke out of jail stole a car and well we haven’t seen him since.
Of course he is a sweet baby he is MY baby. Would I ever answer any differently? I think he is the sweetest baby ever (besides Ashlynn of course)!
#2 Are you going to have another one?


Let me think about this one for a minute. I figured out how he got in there and right now I remember very clearly how he got out. The answer to that one would be NO! But seriously why are you asking me that now? Can you not give a girl a little a break? There is more to a woman’s life then birthing out babies…shocking I know!

#3 How do you like having two?
“I hate it. Actually we are seriously considering sending this one back. Worst choice I ever made.”
Again, I know people are just trying to make small talk, but of course it is fabulous and they are my babies and I love them both dearly. Besides all that, what would I do about it now-kind of a little late to change my mind now.

And my favorite one….

#4 May I see him?
Well the answer to that would be “you’re looking right at him” I am assuming you don’t have any kind of eye impartment that is preventing you from seeing him. If you do I am not sure what I can do to help you with that.
Now if you mean will I take off all his blankets (in the middle of the coldest winter ever) and let you touch him or heaven forbid hold him you have got to be out of your mind. I don’t even know you, I know my baby is cute but what are you thinking. Do you know how many germs are probably on your hands at this very moment? Do you really think I want you sticking your dirty hands on my sweet little boy because I can assure you I don’t! (and for those of you that read my blog regularly I know you are recalling the Wendy’s encounter, but that woman just caught me in a weak moment because I can assure you that has happened since. )
I love being a new mommy!

Friday, February 19, 2010

Tales From Kindergarten Lunch Duty

Thursday was my first day back at work. I feel so blessed to have such an awesome group of women to work with. They welcomed me back with open arms and made my first couple of days back fabulous. Well, I mean it was almost fabulous.

Today I had lunch duty. If you have never eaten lunch with 120 five and six year olds you are truly missing out. I will be honest. I kind of forgot just how much fun lunch duty could be (you know like going to the dentist and having all your teeth pulled fun). Let me paint you a little picture....

120 kids in a cafeteria, with cement bricks, and a tile floor. They all have food. Various kinds of foods that all smell differently. They have 30 minutes to eat said food. It takes them about five minutes to eat the dessert. The rest of the food becomes a toy-what else are they going to do with the extra 25 minutes? I mean come on mom you didn't actually think I ate that sandwich you packed or the cafeteria sloppy joe you paid for, did you?

There are three teachers on lunch duty. Their job is to go around and open milks, get napkins, and keep watch over the 120 children that are all talking at the same time. This is where the real fun begins. "Teacher will you open my yogurt"? That's when you reach down and feel slime (a.k.a slobber) rolling down the package. "Sure darling next time can you remember to not put it in your mouth first". They nod their cute little head just so that you can discover next week you are having the same conversation with the same child.

Oh and then there is my favorite..the hand raise of the child that just wants to tell you a story. Now granted two tables over a little boy just put pudding in a little girl's hair. But no that is not near as important as this sweet little angel that has been waving their hand at you like their chair is on fire. You discover that they just wanted to share with you their birthday party plans; even though their birthday is not until next November. Yes we hear all shorts of stories. Most are very interesting. Today's top two were the penis story, and the ball story (we will save those stories for another time).

Needless to say you have just not experiences life until you have experienced Kindergarten lunch duty. It is only 30 minutes. 30 minutes of running around in circles. 30 minutes of not being able to hear yourself think. 30 minutes of food that has been mixed and squashed until you can't tell what it is anymore.

30 minutes where you learn more about a child then you learn during an entire day in the classroom. 30 minutes to bond with children that sometimes just need someone to listen to them. 30 minutes to spend with children as a friend not just a teacher.30 minutes where a child feels like they can just be themselves.

Those 30 minutes are wonderful and precious in many ways.

Now don't get me wrong, at the end of those thirty minutes you leave the cafeteria with half a peanut butter and jelly sandwich stuck to your shoe. Something brown and green streaked across the back of your pants. And what appears to be part of a fruit roll up stuck in your hair.

But those 30 minutes are really part of the whole experience that makes me love me job. If you haven't experienced Kindergarten lunch duty you should. If you took just one day every other week to go have lunch with your child or to volunteer to have lunch with a child you too we see the glories of Kindergarten lunch duty.

P.S. I have lunch duty for the next two Fridays if you interested I will gladly step aside and let you have at it-HA! Just kidding-no really if your available???? It's only 30 minutes how bad can it be, right? You know you want to!

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

I'm going to miss this

As much as I have tried not to think about it the week is already here. The week that I have dreading for 13 weeks now. I go back to work this Thursday. To say I am depressed about it is a total understatement.

I feel like I am going through the grieving process. I have a running list in my head of all the things I am going to miss. I have also been listening to Trace Adkins Your Gonna Miss This and of course it just makes me cry. I am gonna miss this, I am gonna want this back, I do wish these days hadn't gone by so fast, these are some good times, I've taken a good look around, and I do know how much I'm gonna miss this.

I know your thinking back to my stay-at-home-mom post and thinking this crazy girl can't make up her mind. Well, I do know I would never make a good full time SAHM, but that doesn't make going back to work any easier.

I am so extremely blessed that my mom is going to be keeping my babies. I honestly don't know if I could do it if she wasn't. I also am extremely blessed to have a job that allows me to get off at 3:30 and have the summers home with my family (I know all you teacher's out there are laughing at this -I use the term "off" lightly).

It does help to know that next month I get a week off and then in just three months I will have summer break (all though I am quite certain that those 3 mths. won't go near as fast as the past 3).

Any way today I am getting everything done (laundry, cleaning, etc.) so that tomorrow I can do absolutely nothing except enjoy my day. I even finished the sign I made for my door at school for when I need to do my "mommy business". I think it turned out cute....

Prayers for Thursday would be greatly appreciated!

Saturday, February 13, 2010

The Love Roller Coaster

Having been with Marshal the last 15 years I can definitely say our love has been a lot like a roller coaster. Some times I look at him and can not believe how lucky I am to have such a great husband and then other times I look at him and think I could literally strangle him with my bare hands. Big difference there I know! The thing is I love him even though sometimes I just plan don't like him.

Any way I am not even going to try and turn this into a mushy gushy love story about Marshal and I. What I am wondering is, if there is a love roller coaster in life? I mean you know when you are in high school and college it is all about impressing the other person. So you start out slowly and then gradually start climbing up that hill getting to know the person better and better. Then you get married and you are at an all time "in love" high. Next real life hits-jobs, bills, stress, etc. and down you go. One day you decide you want to start a family and there is just something about that that makes you love your spouse in a whole new level, up..up..up. That is until the demands of being a parent take over and you find yourself so busy some days that you barely get a chance to talk.

Now this next part I can not speak personally for, but from observation my belief is that a love high hits once again. Your babies grow up and you find yourself living with an empty nest-just the two of you. However, it doesn't seem like it is all roses from there on out, because then the stress of retirement as well as aging and health concerns all come in to play.

But tonight when I was with my family spending a romantic evening filled with roses, music,white lines and candlelight (not to mention stuffed cow babies, balloons, and a play zone filled with children) at Chick-fil-a, I saw the couple that was on the roller coaster high that I can only dream of being at someday. If I had to guess they were probably in their mid seventies and they were such a cute sweet couple. They seemed as if they had spent their life time together. He held her and gently walked her to the bathroom, waited for her, and helped her put her coat on. He even stopped by the counter to get her a chocolate kiss before they left. They were in love.

It remind me that love is not about diamonds and expensive purses. It is about taking care of each other and going through life's changes as one.

I believe love is a roller coaster. I believe that without the downs the ups would not be as fun. I believe although sometimes it is a struggle, all you have to do is stay in the same seat and enjoy the ride together.

And yes I just published a post without a pic of the kids...sorry to all of you that only read my blog to see the babies..next time I promise! :)

Friday, February 12, 2010

Way to go Dad

Last night Marshal and I attended the Rogers-Lowell Chamber of Commerce annual banquet. As you all know by now Marshal is now working for the City of Rogers as their Emergency Management Director. Marshal so nicely reminded me his job is not just about taking care of ice storms and tornado's it is also about building community connections. So we went and hob nobed with the best of them.

Any way some of you know (Melissa) that I stressed sooooo bad about what to wear. This whole post baby weight thing is seriously bothering me (p.s. I am not looking for the "oh you look great" comments because hello people I have at least three mirrors in my bedroom that I can plainly see how I look everyday all day long).

Long story short I am sometimes jealous of men and their very simple fashion. I mean don't get me wrong, I love shopping and I love buying cute tops and adorable little dresses and for sure think I need at least seven different pairs of black shoes alone. However, this past two weeks when trying to squeeze into every outfit I own (unsuccessfully might I add) and trying to shop EVERYWHERE I could think of (with two kids) just to fine one simple little outfit for this event I wished all I had to do was run into Dillard's and buy a new tie!


Oh well I did end up finding a dress and having a great time at the banquet. And here it is...

The most exciting part of the evening was my dad received the Volunteer of the Year Award! WAY TO GO DAD! Now for any of you that have met my dad you know that he greatly deserved this award, as he is a very giving man, however he does not like having attention put on him and I am quite sure the whole experience embarrassed him. Oh well I am very proud of him!
And just because I believe no post is ever complete without a picture of my kids.....

Friday, February 5, 2010

Girls Day

As I mentioned in yesterday's post, today was girls day! Ashlynn and I enjoyed some great mommy daughter time. Although last night when I was telling her we were going to do this she said in her sweet little voice "but momma I love Jaxton and I am really going to miss him".

So we started out the day by making some valentine cards....

Then we did each other's nails a beautiful sparkle pink.Next we fixed each other's hair and if one bow makes you beautiful than 20 bows must make you absolutely stunning! ( at least that is what Ashlynn thought)!What would a girl's day be without some yummy dessert!And of course all princesses need their beauty rest so nap time was for sure included in our day!









Thursday, February 4, 2010

Schedule

Tomorrow my mom is taking Jaxton for the day so that Ashlynn and I can have some good quality girl time! I am so excited about spending some time just with her. She is such an amazing daughter and she has adjusted so well to having a baby brother, but I think she deserves some one-on-one mommy time all to herself.

Any way in preparing for this day and the upcoming weeks ahead, when I go back to work; I have typed up Jaxton's daily schedule for my mom. I know every baby is different and every mommy has a different parenting style, but I am a huge scheduler! I thought since I have so many friends that are expecting their first little bundle of joy, I would share with you the "life in the day of an almost 3 month old" well at least a day in the life of my almost three month old.

Jaxton’s 3 month Schedule

6:30 a.m. Wake up to eat-he will fall back asleep after this feeding

9:30 a.m. Wake him up to eat

9:50 a.m. Play time: read books, quite talks, walk around to look at and touch things

10:20 a.m. Cuddle time: swaddle him up, rock, sing, and snuggle

10:30 a.m. Nap Time: put him in bed drowsy but awake. If he fusses he may have his pacifier

12:30 p.m. Wake him up to eat

12:50 p.m. Play time: bouncy seat, tummy time, or floor gym

1:20 p.m. Cuddle Time: swaddle him up, rock, sing, and snuggle

1:30 p.m. Nap Time: put him in bed drowsy but awake. If he fusses he may have his pacifier

4:00 p.m. Wake him up to eat

4:20 p.m. Play time: swing, sit in Bumbo, Boppy time, environment exploration (loves to look in the mirror)

4:50 p.m. Cuddle Time: swaddle him up, rock, sing, and snuggle

5:00 p.m. Nap Time: put him in bed drowsy but awake. If he fusses he may have his pacifier

7:00 p.m. Wake him up to eat

7:20 p.m. Bath Time

8:00 p.m. Bed Time: cuddle and rock and goodnight prayers

9:30 p.m. Late night feeding/ will fall right back to sleep after this feeding and will sleep until the 6:30 a.m. feeding

* play time activities are only a suggestion

Monday, February 1, 2010

Stay at Home Mom- My Love Hate Relationship

Disclaimer: This post is strictly written for me. I believe we all make the choice to do what is best for our families regardless of if we choose to work or stay home.

I have to say I never pictured myself as a stay at home mom. My mom worked outside of the home and I never questioned her love for me. She was and is the most amazing mom to me and I know that she always did what was best for me.

Over the last 11 weeks I have been so blessed to be at home with my two precious children. I have loved nothing more than being their mommy. However, these 11 weeks have proven to me that I have a love-hate relationship with the stay at home mom.

I love staying in my pajamas all day! I hate feeling like a complete ugly bum when looking in the mirror realizing it is 5:00 and I still have not taken a shower!

I love that if I don’t finish the dinner dishes there is always all day tomorrow! I hate being a procrastinator and getting nothing done because I know there is always tomorrow!

I love that my days consist of baby talk and four year old wisdom! I hate that when I try to carry on an adult conversation it’s like my brain has turned to mush and I simply cannot complete a full sentence!

I love eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with chips, fruit punch, and Oreos for dessert. I hate the way my thighs rub together when I walk!

I love getting kisses and hugs whenever I want them! I hate that I haven’t gotten that big “I’ve missed you soooooo much today” hug in a long time!

I love being creative with playdough and making silly faces to make Jaxton smile! I hate not using all of the skills I have worked so hard to earn (Master’s in Reading, ESL specialist, and National Board certification)!

I love being their full time role model! I hate knowing that whenever they aren’t so perfect it is all my fault (Ashlynn- throwing a fit bc I didn’t give her enough m&m’s, and Jaxton- thinking he needs to be held his entire nap time)!

I love being a mom; my two children are the most amazing gift God could ever give me! I hate that the selfish part of me longs to have some time for just me (even if it is just the 20 minute drive to and from work)!
Well there it is. I am sure I could keep going, but you get the point. I am going back to work next Friday, February 12th. I am so sad to be leaving my babies! I know, however that their Nonnie (my mom) is so supper excited to be taking over.

Now you can just look forward to my next post…..When is summer break because I hate being back at work-HA!

P.S. What post would be complete without a couple of pictures of the kiddos ?